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We change our voices

In the middle of decluttering, while going through old record albums, I thumbed through some that belonged to my father. There it was, a 78 vinyl record of my paternal family members welcoming my father home from World War 2.

From what I read online, it was usual to record directly onto a blank record disk on a portable machine at a welcome home party of family and friends. My father’s was Sunday, February 17, 1946 in the Bronx, after his tour of duty on Morotai Island in the South Pacific.

That’s 76 years since this record was probably ever played.

Luckily I can still play 78s. And I recorded both sides of the disk to my iphone VoiceMemos app, to share with my brothers and pass along to their children who remember my father.

For the first time in my life I heard my grandfather’s voice; he died when I was very young. Names and inside jokes from family friends and neighbors were alien to me. Only one voice was immediately familiar, just as I remember it. But not my father’s, or my grandmother’s. My brother remarked the same.

I guess the record preserved their much younger voices forever, and my memory still retained theirs. One difference, their voices had changed as they grew older.

So I started to think that we do change voices as we age, but not only in pitch, bass, or treble as I learned from the 78, but in maturity, choice of words, depth of insight, and speech timing.

And in our memories.

In 1946 a 78 was the means of leaving your voice for posterity. Today we have dozens of media to do so. It’s not the hardware or the software, but the quality of the words you leave behind for later generations–how we formulate what we say and I suppose how it sounds.

I do miss my father’s and grandmother’s voices. Yes, I got nostalgic, perhaps weepy here, but my thoughts are intended to be worth recording here for later reference or on any social medium.

Let’s hope our words stay accessible, our thoughts memorable, and our ideals meaningful beyond the test of time.

Just not once every 76 years please.

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Pestering is not in my LinkedIn skills

I am making a request:

Can we all be just a little bit more honest with each other and reply to the proposals you asked me for: with a yes, or a no?

Or simply reply to my email asking for a zoom meeting: yes or no thanks?

Or stop saying that you have this or that happening and I should come back in the spring?

Entrepreneurism is like fishing, yes, as every contact with a prospect biting is a rosy possibility, but I will start cutting bait more readily.

Prospect, your radio silence can be interpreted as:

  1. Never seeing my email which happens to many people deluged with spam.
  2. Or ignoring me for lack of respect or your professionalism.
  3. Your office burned down (it’s happened!)
  4. Or finally, because you enjoy the sport of putting vendors through the paces.

I’m over soliciting and imploring and reminding and asking once again.

I am hunting, not foraging to subsist.

But the offenders are probably not reading me here anyway.

After I wrote this, I noticed LinkedIn’s Sales Blog ran an article titled “4 Surefire Signs It’s Time to Walk Away from a Prospect” that complements my frustration points, with their valid educational pointers.

I am still learning.

I think a healthy conversation can surround this issue. In words.

What do you do when the prospect seems to vaporize?

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Clubbing myself over missing out on Clubhouse, until now

How could I have been so dense? Why didn’t I dip a toe into the Clubhouse pool earlier?

Well, not being one to fret over missed opportunity I tried it, and “Hey Mikey, he liked it!”

I am now regularly scheduling myself to listen (and participate–because you know me, I have to offer something…) to learn from my two esteemed colleagues

Diane DiResta, whom I met 18+ years ago, liked immediately, emulated her styler points, and all along admired her artfulness,


Scott Mason my brotherly muse (pun intended!) whom I met early virtually in the pandemic yet it feels like decades of close collaboration. We even met in person once, albeit for a short time.

How’s that for 2 introductions?

Diane and Scott (LinkedIn profiles here too) cohost a Clubhouse session aptly called “Confidence Clarity Charisma” every Friday (as in today!) at 1100am EST that delves into some really deep concepts surrounding listening, speaking, writing, and interpersonal communication.

I always leave with a patina of new understanding. And get exposed to bit more Greek mythology too…

I suggest you try them out.

Not a LinkedIn post today, but one about 2 people rocking Clubhouse.

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Are you whipped up for the challenge?

bread food toast dawn

In the pre-pandemic days I used to challenge myself with “Ask Me Anything” (AMA) sessions. Believe me, there were times I wondered why on earth I did them, but in almost every case I emerged self-respecting, and the attendees told me they were greatly enriched.

Once or twice I was caught flat-footed with no idea how to answer a question but promised I would research it and report back. Which I did.

Often I was asked the same questions over and over again, like “is buying a LinkedIn subscription worthwhile?” “How do I say no to a connection request?” etc.

I always answered the questions based on my experience and made sure to ladle on a dollop of brand marketing savvy for the audience. After all, my answer is only as good as the benefit of experience you can actually apply with your new-found knowledge.

So I always felt mildly nervous in starting my AMAs and after awhile I found I was able to roll with the energy in the room. So much so that I have continued them weekly for a private group, and as LinkedIn changes and the sophistication of the attendees increases, I still find I am on top of my game.

How do you demonstrate being on top of yours?

Do you write, speak, teach, video, and how do you demonstrate your expertise?

We all have to be expert in something and showing it is a personal choice: not whether, but how, to do so.

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Drumroll…my 2 most-viewed blogposts of 2021, IMHO worth repeating

tilt shift photo of acoustic drum set

Here it is, the one blog post that eclipsed all my others in 2021, and by a long-shot, with 1,882 views: how to stop receiving work anniversary notifications on LinkedIn.

And the runner-up: with 772 views: using and being bold, and italic, on your LinkedIn profile narrative. And I do appreciate your comments!

Glad you liked these.

More drumming in the days ahead in 2022.

Finer Points, Today's LinkedIn Nugget

Soft skills as business vital signs

Some prospects asked me to reapproach them in January to coach them personally or train their staff as a group.

Yes, LinkedIn is considered by some a soft skill, not something that contributes to the bottom line.

Screech of brakes…


Investing in your brand brings more eyes, and thus referrals, and then potential business to your revenue stream. Your bottom line. Your cash flow. All business vital signs. Thump-thump.

So if you have some ‘splainin’ to do “why you do what you do” and how you are amazing-er than the competition, now is the time.

Not when it’s too late and you missed the opportunity to be a business partner. Because you will never know you missed it; you were not considered.

Those “call me later” folks? They are already hearing from me!

Their brand image is my priority. Make yourself and how you energetically appear to others a top priority. Now.

Not later.

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You say you exceed expectations? Let others say how much!

ripe grapes hanging on vine in garden

A highly anticipated package from Costco, based on its contents, is coming a day early. They promised it for tomorrow and it’s arriving today. I like that. I think it’s smart business to over-achieve, even amid the pre-Christmas crush of deliveries, as I write this.

Little things can make a big impact. Make you memorable. Make you competitively advanced.

Like sending a proposal ahead of the deadline. Not at 1130pm the day it was due.

Like calling back or emailing a reply, in the moment. Not the next day.

Like coming in under budget. Now isn’t that memorable?

Like being complete and educational in your answer to questions posed to you. You rule your realm.

Is all this low hanging fruit? Perhaps, especially in today’s low-expectation world, as we have come to expect little and tolerate inefficency.

But isn’t a huge statement if you are timely, appreciative, educational, organized, professional, dependable, and true to how you want your brand recognized? (Notice I did not include brave, clean, and reverent…)

Let’s just call your differentiators the fruit of your labors. The things you learned and earned throughout your past career make you who you are in your present today and hint at where your prospective client can go with you in your future.

Here’s a LinkedIn twist on this topic: ask a special colleague or client to tell a story, in writing: a LinkedIn recommendation. As in when you exceeded expectations, shone, demonstrated professional prowess; in other words, their observations on how well you do what you do.

Your brand, woven throughout your LinkedIn profile, tells “why you do what you do,” and their words “how well you did what you did” adds further enhancement. Past-present-future, right?

You could talk about yourself all day long (please don’t), but when a recognized colleague commits admiration to writing a few paragraphs about you in a LinkedIn recommendation, the impression on the reader indelible, based on witnessing you at work, doing what you do best, and the magic is obvious. Then you sparkled, sparkle, will sparkle.

Check your recommendations now. Who is missing in helping you tell your brand story for you?

All you have to do is ask.

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Let’s celebrate our differences

I made this graphic extra large. It’s really a photo I took last year in a retail store selling calendars, and I was looking for the right time and place to use it, and now I think it’s that time.

Just when the pandemic seems to smash us further and partisan politics drives us further apart, perhaps, just perhaps, there’s an element of the best of humanity right there on LinkedIn. Everyday hiding in plain sight.

People helping others, adding to the global conversation, offering impressions of new ideas and adaptable concepts, referring and warmly introducing like minds to expand business circles.

All while we all come to the LinkedIn table with diverse cultural filters on what we do, when we say it, how we react, and the thought process we carry.

We can discuss and query. We should challenge, professionally of course, what we do not readily see, in order to more easily absorb it. Reword it in a way we can absorb it.

We can be coopetors instead of competitors. No black-and-white, just shades of gray.

In this dim light of an ebbing year that has tried our humanity, let’s strive to share our similarities and celebrate our differences.

Despite the date on the graphic, will you join me in this in 2022?

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Happy holidays to readers around the world

It is indeed the holiday season all around the world: ethnic, religious, secular, and historic traditions included, many unique.

For fellow northern hemisphere readers, we experience the month with the least daylight and it is no wonder that our observance of the holiday season is also sunlight-oriented. And yes, my friends, we will shiver and shovel together.

For readers in the southern hemisphere, your days are long and my warm thoughts are reflected back to you. Your insights and opinions are truly eye-opening as you comment back to me in this blog, and on LinkedIn.

Happy holidays all, wherever you are, whenever, however you celebrate. Thank you for reading and your feedback.