african-elephant-4889366_1920I first published this post in August 2018. It bears repeating, with a twist from my trunk of tricks.

The herd mentality to connect to anything that moves, has carbon life form, and catches the hunter’s fancy has not changed. In fact, it’s getting worse. Clearly BS connection requests, not even hidden or partially obscured, like, “Hiya, how are you?” That’s all they say.

I’m reporting the ones I get that seem odd, suggestive, or bot-like.

I do not like to be a trophy on the stuffed connection wall.

I do want to be asked to connect, when the requester earns it. Yes, earns it, not by sending a lame boilerplate request, or even offering a note that they saw me on a post or that they like what I am doing. Yes, that’s a compliment, but doesn’t earn one admittance to my metaphorical LinkedIn house.

Earning it is doing business with me. That’s trust and connection IMHO.

I respond to some requests, “Have we met? How can I help you?”


Or if they actually reply, and reply no, I politely decline with “Thanks for asking. My policy is to connect to people I have gotten to know in business. You are welcome to follow me on LinkedIn, however. Thanks.”

Do you want to make your profile default to “follow me” rather than “connect with me?” and thus reduce these uninvited, aimless requests? Follow these steps by going to in your LinkedIn Settings and Privacy and then:


  1. click the blue Privacy tab at the top
  2. scroll down to Blocking and Hiding
  3. then scroll down to the Followers subsection
  4. emulate the settings i show above in the graphic

Will it solve all stray requests to connect? No, but it does reduce them significantly.

Now you can improve your following and reduce connecting to those you don’t know.

It’s basic professional etiquette, too. 

Marc W. Halpert

LinkedIn personal coach, group trainer, marketing strategist and overall evangelist, having a great time pursuing my passion of connecting professionals so they can collaborate better!

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