Today's LinkedIn Nugget

Begging for news vs. asking for an update

  • An important LinkedIn recommendation request sits idle now 2 months, my “ask” of a client whom I left under excellent circumstances, save COVID interrupting our further collaboration, after a year of work.
  • Two colleagues agreed to contribute quotes to my new book, asked twice, still waiting, and my manuscript deadline fast approaches.
  • A week ago, a company asked me for a major proposal on a Friday afternoon on a rush basis and I turned it in record speed, and now a week later no reply, though I confirmed they received it and asked for comments and questions.

I am not whining. I am aware of differing priorities, the order of which may get in the way of my receiving what I ask for.

But I am stating facts. Maybe coloring them a bit, in the shade of showing how seriously I take my work, but others apparently might have different intents. Or an unusual way of showing it.

Yet I persevered for 19+ years so far and asking for a status update each week or so is on my calendar {cue the crickets}.

Or I use some humor, some warmth in the words of my messages or emails or voice mails {sounds of silence}.

Vacuum in fact.

We entrepreneurs are vulnerable. I am, since this is my livelihood and proud professional practice.

I learned a long time ago not to appear needy, as if to beg. It is not attractive.

Yet I know they are out there. I can hear them breathing. So I sigh, inhale a long fortitude-giving, oxygen-rich cleansing breath, and move on to the next consultative relationship.

I’d like to know who is and is not serious, sincere, authentic, but sometimes it takes me longer to realize which is which’nt (not a typo).

Does this happen to you? How do you overcome this dilemma?

I am curious how you handle this.

Always learning.